A blessing is an infusion of something with holiness, spiritual redemption, divine will, or one’s hope or approval. “To be blessed” means ‘to be favored by God’. Blessings therefore are directly associated with God and come from God. Thus to express a blessing is like bestowing a wish on someone that they will experience the favor of God.
Blessing one another brings life. Cursing brings death, So when you pray, instead of naming all the bad things we should pronounce Gods blessings over others and thereby also pronounce a solution over them. Therefore we then bring life to something that has no life. As children of God we are called to bless one another and pronounce the good things of God over others. You can say: “I bless you with health in your back, or Lord please bless him with a healthy back.”
Blessing someone is also the very act of not thinking of one self… it is selfless. For you don’t know if you get anything back and you pronounce Gods infusion and goodness into someone else. A blessing can be a prayer, a physical gift, or card, an act of goodness, or you can also bless someone by just giving them a compliment. When you compliment someone you light up their life, their inner being. Blessing one another creates love for one another. Selfless love.
Deuteronomy 30:19 “This day I call the heavens and the earth as witnesses against you that I have set before you life and death, blessings and curses. Now choose life, so that you and your children may live 20 and that you may love the Lord your God, listen to his voice, and hold fast to him.”
When we bless we spread His light and Holy Spirit and it also effects the flow of the Holy Spirit. When you Bless one another the Holy Spirit starts to move to others and help them. It is a selfless act of pronouncing God’s goodness over others. God’s love then starts to flow like a river of live in their lives “a river of God’s goodness”. Imagine when you compliment one person and make them feel better about themselves, their inner being changes and they can in turn compliment others. IT CHANGES THE ATMOSPHERE.
Jesus said that the greatest commandment in the law is to love God and love one another. If you do these things you automatically also do the rest of the law. “Teacher, which is the greatest commandment in the Law?” Jesus replied: “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’ This is the first and greatest commandment. 39 And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ All the Law and the Prophets hang on these two commandments.” Matthew 22:36-40 NIV So a real service to him should be about love, first to show God how much we love him and secondly to love one another. God showed us forgiveness through grace and we should practice doing this to each other. In a service it should be about learning to forgive, building bridges and uplifting one another, as God has done for us. We should be bringing people together, instead of pulling them apart. They should feel so much love that when they leave they are overwhelmed by love. They are moved by the spirit of love, God himself.
Love is the bond of holiness. So to become holy we need to be bound with love. We are all hurt. We are all wounded. The Messiah has forgiven us and loves us. Many people know this but we all want recognition from each other. What is love and how can we build bridges, when there is so much pain between us? So many things that have happened? Love is not always wanting to be right. We all want to be right… but we cannot all be right. It is not about being right. Not about judging. We have all sinned. And therefore we are all to blame for the mess we have made. But where do we draw the line? Is it up to us to judge? Is wanting to be right not just another way of judging one another? The Messiah said not to judge. He will be the judge. He even loved the prostitutes, the outcasts. Who are we then to judge one another? To say “I am right…”
A loving service should be about connecting our souls with God and one another. This is what we all seek, deep inside us. The problem with connecting our souls is that we are afraid to be overwhelmed by each others problems. Afraid that we can no longer live our life because we lose ourselves in other people’s problems. There are so many people around us. And then when we feel another’s problems start to overwhelm us, we begin to feel guilty. Guilty for not caring enough. We are only human. But Jesus can give us the bond of perfection: love… without being overwhelmed. How can we care for one another without being overwhelmed by each others problems? It is not about pulling each other down. It is about lifting each other up by complementing and blessing each other. Instead of complaining send blessings. Instead of putting each other down or saying “I am right because…” uplift one another and compliment one another. “You have a loving heart” sounds so much better than “You are wrong about what you said in Bible study.” One compliment a day makes your heart feels so much lighter. It can make someone feel so much better. Change their outlook on life. Humility is not lowering yourself but rather uplifting others. This is what it should be about. Using positive words of encouragement to uplift one another.
“Being a Person of Blessing” (A note from the newsletter of my friend Cari Jenkins). 14th of november 2013:
“Over the past seven years of serving outside of the local church context I have come to learn the beauty, power and importance of being a person of blessing. Henri Nouwen writes in The Life of the Beloved, “We have to affirm each other. Without affirmation, it is hard to live well. To give someone a blessing is the most significant affirmation we can offer. It is more than a word of praise or appreciation; it is more that pointing out someone’s talents or good deeds; it is more than putting someone in the light. To give a blessing is to affirm, and say ‘yes” to a person’s Belovedness. And more than that: To give a blessing creates the reality of which it speaks.” I seek to be a person of blessing. To be one who affirms the belovedness of others as I affirm their identity in Jesus. As I pastor leaders from around the country, I speak life, give courage and shine the light of Jesus, while I encourage and equip them in His way. This work multiplies itself into each individual’s life and in their places of leadership and influence. It is in this work, of encouraging and equipping that I find myself looking forward to what’s ahead with great anticipation.
Right now bless someone out loud with something they need. How does it feel? Not selfish. You are giving love away to them. When you meet people today compliment them (without wanting something back). Give them life. In your Bible studies, start blessing one another, from one to the other. You don’t need a priest or a rabbi to start giving and receiving blessings! Just start blessing others out loud. Next time you go to a meeting at church instead of wanting to be right about your ideas, give everyone you meet there there a small compliment. Change the atmosphere around you by blessing one another
In Judaism it is also a custom to bless God. In fact most Jewish prayers start out with first blessing God. Blessing and praising Him. “Baruch Ata Adonai Eloheinu Meleg ha Olam.” This is also acknowledging Gods sovereignty over the world and that He is the source of all life and goodness. The Old Testament is full of places where it says to Bless God. David says it continually in the Psalms: “Bless the Lord O my soul.” The priests were to bless the Lord in the Temple. In our prayers we are to bless the Father, Jesus and the Holy Spirit. So bless the Lord, and bless others and choose life. In Judaism, a blessing (or berakhah) is recited at a specified moment during a prayer, ceremony or other activity, especially before and after partaking of food. The function of these blessings is to acknowledge God as the source of all blessing. A blessing is also part of the covenant with God. God blesses when his people keep the covenant.
Curses, Pride and Arrogance
A curse is the opposite of a blessing. It is speaking bad things about one another and creates death and pride. They say pride comes before the fall. Indeed it often does. When you Bless one another you overcome pride. When someone says something you think is not smart, Instead of saying: “He is stupid,” say: “Lord, please bless him with wisdom.” There is a lot of pride in the church, everyone seems to know things better than someone else. Pride creates a divided church because everyone wants to be right and think they know the way. But it is not about you being right, it is about spreading His love and His presence to others. We can only do that if we give up on our pride and start blessing one another. Jesus gave this as example. As God He came and lowered himself, giving up all his pride in order to bless us.